To Trust Him is to Love Him

 

Jasmine did not share a magic carpet ride with a stranger.  He saw in the eyes of Prince Aladdin the commoner whom he trusted in the marketplace. His invitations were words from the hero who rescued her.

 

Familiar

Have you met a person who resembles someone you know from the past? And somehow because of that resemblance it was easy to get along with him or her?  It may not be the physical attributes but it is the way he speaks or acts which remind you of someone.

The older and wiser you grow, the more you will realize that this world is filled with people who are familiar.  

What I meant by that is, people you meet will always have someone whom you can “connect them with”.  And this can give you either a feeling of ease or disgust depending on who you remember by being with them.

Seeing someone as “familiar” is a ground to be used not to judge but to connect.  To connect means, at a certain level, to trust that we can open up ourselves with the person in front of us. Often, we call it “instinct” if we have to select who to trust or not but that is often associated with a past experience with someone or something.

Back in college, I had this subject Broadcast Communication in which 90% of my classmates failed. It is a major subject that we have to at least pass if we’re looking at applying in the future for jobs in media networks. The whole class would agree that our professor back then had a high standard. He won’t teach us what we have to learn but give us questions that we should have researched in advance. He will then call us randomly one by one when he comes to class and ask us to recite and discuss a certain topic. He was a terror teacher to some. 

Despite this, I have a secret why I’m actually the student who got the highest grade in his class.  I go to the library and really study, not just because I’m a scholar and I had to maintain a good mark.  My professor back then looked like my dad.  And that was the simple reason which motivated me to excel in his subject.

From Connection to Trust

To trust someone familiar is easier than someone you do not know. Trust is also strengthened by a connection between two individuals, and this grows over time.

Trust can either be based on knowledge or faith and it’s up to you to balance which weighs more in making an action or a decision. There were times when I have acted on knowledge, mostly in my profession.  My line of work trained me to rely on statistics, market research, feasibility studies and income projection before I venture on a campaign or project. There were occasions when I stepped out in faith – whether to approach someone which eventually turns out to be a key person who can give me a good deal.  It pays to learn how to use both strategies.

However, the secret to trusting me is not the knowledge I have or much faith in something I perceive to happen.  

“I give my trust to a person – not to something or some idea.  Sometimes, this person has to be God, or myself, or a lover.  Trust is just anchored in relationships.”

All relationships are anchored in trust, for without it, there is no foundation to build one.

Pocahontas

 

Pocahontas, out of curiosity, befriended John Smith.  Though he was a stranger, and eventually revealed himself as one of the enemies, he won the trust of the tribe princess.  She was brave enough to take the risk. 

Their love story was one of those against all odds relationships meant to teach people this lesson: that maybe,  your perception of what’s acceptable or not can change when you walk another person’s path.  That maybe, love is truly powerful enough to transcend all understanding.  And maybe one can only experience love when trust takes place.

Riding a Bicycle

When I was a child, my parents bought me a bicycle.  My dad had his own adult bicycle but I didn’t learn to ride at the young age of seven. I settled with the toy bicycle I had because I couldn’t control the big one, though some girls my age can manage. My dad tried to teach me many times but for some reason, I get afraid when he lets go.  It’s not that I didn’t trust my dad back then ( I may have not even understood the word yet)… I was just afraid.

Maybe you have your own sets of fears, as a child or even as grown ups.  For me as a child, it may be learning new things without my dad to catch me like riding that bicycle.  As a grown up, it may be to let go of something or someone dear to me.  In relation to this, I have come to an assumption that to fear is not to trust. 

Trust is inevitable to thrive, and to survive.

Trust is needed not just in the presence of your guide but in absence of control, not just in embracing but also in letting go.

Trust and Love

I actually don’t know how to end this post. What I know is that I am still learning about trust, and how deeply connected it is with love. I mentioned that trust is the anchor of any kinds of relationship but how much you give it may depend on how much you love a person. 

Trusting someone expresses unselfishness, bestows freedom, and gives confidence.  All are manifestations of love.

Love speaks daily, often as answers to questions of trust which are subtle and sometimes unnoticed.

Will you let me take care of the job?

Will you allow me to go out with friends tonight?

Will you watch the house while we’re away?

Will you wait here until I come back?

Will you proceed without knowing all the details?

Will you let go of thoughts of the future?

Will you just live for today?  

Will you enjoy my presence this very minute?

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Originally written and published in 2013

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